An emotional candlelight vigil was held at Hay Lions Park on Wednesday evening, bringing together a group of more than 30, who each took a stand against family violence.

National vigils are held annual on the first Wednesday of May to remember and honour those who have been killed by domestic or family violence. 

This year, the family of murdered Forbes teacher and mother Molly Ticehurst asked the nation to come together or to leave their house light on in her memory, which prompted the gathering in Hay.

Attendees were offered the opportunity to speak and it was hard to hear local women talk about times when they feared they would not escape with their lives. 

The impact on the group was clear as the story of repeated breaches of AVOs (apprehended violence orders) was told.

Others spoke about calling 000 when they witnessed domestic violence in our neighbourhoods, and their frustration at the delays that could one day prove deadly.

“I called the Police and it was five hours before anyone arrived,” one person shared. “That could have ended so badly. 

“In the meantime, I was given the third degree on the phone.”

“When I was in danger, Police needed to come from other towns to respond,” one survivor said.

Others called for a safe space to be established in Hay, where people can seek refuge, and for the community to come together to combat violence.

“If you see someone walking late at night, and they just don’t seem right, stop and ask if they are ok,” another said. 

“They might have gotten away, but don’t know where to go.”

The lasting impacts of trauma on survivors and their children was also spoken of, and the lack of resources to help people recover.

Member for Murray Helen Dalton was unable to attend the event due to parliamentary commitments but sent her support.

“This is a very good initiative,” she said. “I am highly supportive and apologise that I could not attend.”

The federal government last week held a meeting of Cabinet and afterwards announced it will invest $925 million over five years, to permanently establish the Leaving Violence Program, so that those escaping violence can receive financial support, safety assessments and referrals to support pathways. 

“Those eligible will be able to access up to $5,000 in financial support, along with referral services, risk assessments and safety planning,” Prime Minister Anthony Albanese said.

But in rural communities such as Hay the lack of emergency response or refuge facility is the most pressing case. 

The Leaving Violence Program will help those who are able to plan an escape from abuse, but will not help those who are in the midst of an attack.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence help can be found via:

• 1800RESPECT or 1800 737 732 which offers a national counselling helpline, information and support
• NSW Domestic Violence Line 1800 65 64 63 which offers a state-wide counselling helpline, information and support
• Men’s Referral Service 1300 766 491.

This article appeared in The Riverine Grazier, 8 May 2024.