Leadership & You #2/2024
We all know someone who just drains your energy. They find fault, complain endlessly, focus on the negatives, and ensure the conversation is on themselves and their needs. They seem to be unaware of the impact they have, or the fact they drain the energy from the room. They have an opinion on everyone and everything and have a particularly closed mind. Rather than explore the art of the possible, they are quick to tell you why something will not work.
We all get life has its ups and downs. We all go through stages when we feel flat, negative, or disengaged. That is life. But we need work through this and try not drag others down with our own negative energy or mindset. It requires us to be self-aware of the energy we are giving out.
Your energy always precedes you
Every interaction in life requires the exchange of energy. Whether we are conscious of it or not, our face, body language, words, mindset, and actions contribute to the overall energy dynamic. Some individuals naturally radiate positivity, lifting the spirits of those around them. Others may inadvertently drain the energy from a room, leaving a sense of exhaustion in their wake. Understanding whether you are an energy giver or taker can significantly impact your relationships and overall well-being.
Energy givers are individuals who bring positivity, enthusiasm, and support to those they encounter. They exude a warmth that uplifts others, creating an environment where people feel valued and inspired. These individuals are often good listeners, offering empathy and encouragement. Acts of kindness, words of affirmation, and a generally positive outlook are common traits of energy givers. Most importantly they are interested in people, and supportive of the achievements of others.
Energy takers are those who seem to absorb positivity from their surroundings, leaving behind a sense of depletion. Constant complaining, negativity, and a lack of gratitude are characteristics often associated with energy takers. They rarely acknowledge the achievements of others, preferring to be critical or jealous of the achievements of people. They are overly negative, and their presence may leave others feeling drained or emotionally exhausted.
Self-awareness is key in determining whether you lean towards being an energy giver or taker. Reflecting on your interactions and the impact you have on others can provide valuable insights. Ask yourself if your presence tends to elevate or deflate the energy in a room. Consider whether your words and actions contribute positively to the atmosphere or if they have a draining effect.
For those striving to be more of an energy giver, make a conscious effort to practice gratitude, and be mindful how you act and behave in a particular moment. Focus on being positive and supportive of others. Being present in the moment (free of devices), expressing appreciation, and actively focusing on the positives in situations will always contribute to a positive energy flow.
Often it is the little things that count. Engaging in acts of kindness, no matter how small. Smiling when you greet people. Stopping to listen to a reply when you ask someone how they are. Actively listening to someone who is sharing something with you. Encouraging someone to keep going, or patting colleagues on the back when they have achieved something. These are all examples of what you can do to create a ripple effect of positivity.
Energy takers can benefit from self-reflection and the gift of feedback from a trusted source to help facilitate a shift in mindset. Becoming aware of negative patterns and consciously choosing to focus on the positive aspects of life can gradually change the energy they bring to a room or circumstance. Seeking support through positive relationships and adopting a more optimistic outlook are essential steps in becoming an energy giver. But it requires personal commitment. No commitment – no shift in mindset. No shift in mindset – no shift in behaviour or attitude.
We all have a choice in life. We choose to bring our mindset, behaviours, attitude, and energy to work and every situation. Whether we are energy givers or takers is not fixed; it is a dynamic aspect of our personalities that can be cultivated and refined. By being mindful of our impact on others and making intentional choices, we can contribute to creating uplifting and positive environments, fostering stronger connections and a more fulfilling life.
Leadership Lesson
Your smile is your logo
Your personality is your business card
The way you make others feel is your trademark!
Facta Non Verba – Deeds Not Words!
